So today has finally arrived and all the kids are done with school! Um, why did this happen again? Oh yeah I haven’t moved to the equator and year round school! So let the craziness commence!
Grocery shopping half way done, it seems like there is never enough when they are all home. Plans for library trips, working at Nana’s on the garden, bike rides, and summer therapy groups are under way.
Today’s plans include…… wait for it ……surviving! Yep today everyone is hyper, sad about leaving friends, and excited to be done for the year! Today will require a lot of standing our ground on house rules that don’t change because it is summer, interfering when emotions start rising, and calming the whole room down to gain control.
What kind of fun are you all planning this summer? What challenges are you facing? How can we help you get through this transition?
Support is super important!!! I know it is hard to find at times and often we feel like no one understands, but trust me you are not the only person, family, temporary placement, or foster home going through your struggles!
We have family and friends that are there for us, however it is hard for them to relate, but other foster families or families with special needs children seem to get it.
Honestly when I tell my family I have held children for hours while they cried for no reason they don’t really get it. Sure they are sympathetic and try to give support, however how can they provide support when they haven’t been there before. How do they know it is sweaty, fatiguing, heartbreaking, and rewarding all at the same time!
If you have ever been there you know what I am talking about! To most it is overwhelming and to much to handle, however it usually occurs when our kiddos start feel out of control or have been reminded of past trauma! Our first kiddo would scream for five hours for no reason and NOTHING would make him stop. Now 11 years later I can see that he was so neglected that any touch, verbal communication, or sensory input from others was completely overwhelming! He was trying to tell us it was too much, but it was normal day to day life!
How can we protect and provide safety when everything is scarring him? It took many years of consistancy, support, and oh so much research to get through to him (ok it seems like there are times that we are right back at square one). People who have not been through all of these traumatic crying for help really don’t get just how challenging these kids are.
We now just how alone this life can feel and how overwhelming the isolation can be! Our goal is to help everyone out there know that they are not alone because raising kids with traumatic past is a very hard job and we want you to know you are not alone in this journey through the good, the bad, the ugly, and the amazing!