When I hear people praising me and our family for fostering I instantly begin thinking….if you only knew the daily thoughts, and pleaing for God to end this heartache and frustration! What would they think then?
Yeah, to those not in the trenches we look like we have it all together, but they aren’t in the battle field of toothbrushing😩, picking up your dirty underwear that don’t belong on the dinner table🤯, and the no we don’t steal sugar by the handfuls from the pantry😡 battle fields! Would they still be saying the same praises?
We recently had a friend refer to us as super heroes and I instantly envisioned my cape as a trail of paper scraps, with my mask of dirty underwear, and an oversized toothbrush as my wand! Isn’t that a vision!
The only thing we excelled at was taking the first step! It is very scary, but we didn’t do it alone! We had each other!!
One of the most frequent responses we hear from others that are talking with us about fostering is they don’t want it to affect their kids! They are not alone in this worry! It is often scary to think of all the craziness we have put our kids through, but …… you know what?????? My kids can handle almost anything!! Our kids can use their past experiences to handle anything that God sends their way! And the best part is that I know they can handle it. That’s right! I don’t have to worry about them constantly because they can relate to so much more than even most adults can.
My children have learned to be so compassionate, but able to see the line between helping and being abused by others. They know that line between helping and enabling. (I don’t even know if I have that line down yet!) And guess what? My kids are willing to step up and make a difference in the lives of those that are at a point in which they are willing to change. My kids know what it’s like to be at the bottom of the pit, how hard it is to get out of the pit, and how amazing it is to be there to help others! Isn’t that what we all want for kids!
So take that first step people!! Get out there and make a difference not only in the lives of foster children, but in your own children’s lives as well!
Besides, …… I can’t be the only person feeling this way!! Join me in the chaos and love that fostering and adoption can bring!